Let's Go Back To The Start

Hi everyone. We're Steve and Grethen Smith, and this blog is dedicated to documenting our journey through the foster/adoption process. In addition, we want this to be a resource for others who may be interested in learning more about fostering and adopting, so from time to time we'll link to insightful and interesting related material we come across. We're excited to be on this adventure, and want to invite you to share in our story. So let's go back to the start...

Yay Marriage!

Gretchen and I were married 5 years ago, but had no immediate plans to start a family. We had only known each other 6 months before we were married, so the thought of having kids seemed like a distant reality. We both wanted kids, we just didn't want them anytime soon. As we talked about our future family over the next few years, we imagined having a boy and a girl naturally, then eventually adopting once our kids were a little older. It seemed like a good plan. At that point, adopting to us was a good and noble thing to do, but it was something that happens after your regular family was established.

The Austin Stone St. John Campus 

In 2010 we moved to Austin, Texas and started attending the The Austin Stone Community Church. The more we plugged into the church community and learned about the staff, the more we were hearing about adoption. Some people were adopting internationally from Haiti. Other people were pursuing domestic adoptions. It was great to hear stories of people adopting, but we didn't know why it was so prevalent throughout the church.

Then one day Gretchen heard one of the staff members talk about the gospel through the lens of adoption. He compared the way God chose us and pursued us to become part of his family with the process of adopting. To adopt is to love and accept a child that otherwise would not be loved or accepted. The neglected or unwanted child can't change his or her situation - it's what they were born into. In the same way, we were all born into a world separated from the love of God, but He made a way through Jesus' death and resurrection for us to be restored. After hearing this, the idea of adoption became more profound and inspiring to us. Instead of seeing it as just something that was good and admirable, we saw adoption as a real-life illustration of the gospel.

Yes. We've moved a lot.

Over the next two years, Gretchen and I moved from Austin to Los Angeles, then to Washington State, and then to the Dallas area for a few months before we decided where to plant ourselves. Our preferred destination was the San Francisco bay area. Even though we had never spent much time there, the allure of moderate weather, beautiful scenery, incredible wine, and plenty of job opportunities seemed irresistible. We just needed the excuse of a job offer to justify starting over in a new city.

While we were waiting for the illusive job, Gretchen and I attended an adoption conference in Dallas to learn more about how to adopt. We were considering the idea of adoption as the primary way to grow our family, but didn't know where to start. One of the central themes of the conference was that to be successful in raising adopted children, you need a community around you that understands the unique challenges that adoption brings, and is willing to help you overcome them. Immediately we thought of our church in Austin. We have a supportive community there, and the church is invested in educating its people about what adoption looks like. Suddenly, San Francisco wasn't where we wanted to be.

Glad to be back!

It's been just over a week that we moved back to Austin. This time it feels different, though in many ways it's the same as it was two years ago. The difference is Gretchen and I have a clear mission to grow our family through the foster/adoption process, and we see the city as a place where we can demonstrate God's love for us by loving the unloved child. We don't have the weather, scenery, wine, or jobs, but we do have the resources, support and motivation to do something that will literally change a person's life forever. And that is the reason we're on this journey. Welcome to our adoption story.

-Steve